Making plans for the future, am I alone

Darn I don't think my video works so this instead. She speaks in real life.

That is my Halloween witch. She is hilarious and scares the cat and dog. When the dog barks it sets her off.  It is the only thing they agree on, besides 3 o'clock is cookie time.

When the dog goes out to pee the cat hides and waits and then chases Lily in, Lily knows this and runs in like she is in the derby. The cat also hisses and swats. The cat is declawed and can do no harm, Lily does not know this. Fun times. (Cat is a rescue and came this way)

I bought my aeroplane ticket to go get my mom. Not going until mid April but the prices are fantastic and no fee to change dates. Gotta do it. And I have to go get her, I cannot leave her there alone. I am the only one who will do this and not beg for money at the same time. I am just hoping and praying she does not get sick before I need to bring her back.

BTW, flying into Orlando this time. With Disney shut down and no kids the tickets are the cheapest to get to Florida right now. No need to fly into Jacksonville since Susie died, Ft. Myers prices are up and Palm Beach has lots of Covid-19 cases. Also lots of old people to spread these germs around.

Last year she was there until July 4 and she was sick. The heat was miserable, the doctors not great and appointments with specialists months in the future. She needs to see her oncologist and internist up here in early May. We want all this cancer to stay away. She also needs another mammogram and a follow-up with the breast surgeon. And I hope I can get her to the special bra place. The mastectomy has been very hard on her and the healing very slow.

Very soon mom and I will need to place her first Internet order at Publix for curb pick up. Fun times I can hardly wait to tell you about this.

My life lately or how boring I am

My favorite sign right by the dog walk in Florida. This one is on I95 south of Jacksonville. Like that chain fence is gonna keep the poisonous snakes in.

So now my life consists of treatment for depression, social media, TV and reading. None of that seems to be doing the trick to happiness.

Reading is not making me happy, the few authors I like do not write more than a book a year. And some of them suck. I am currently trying to slog through a book about the Vanderbilt mansion in Asheville, NC., some crap by a writer of lesser talent about a woman in France with no job married to a con man, and some books on Highly Sensitive People of which I think I am one. So is my son in my opinion. Do not like any of them.

TV is not great, Star Trek's Picard can not carry the entire genre. There are only so many news/political programs you can watch without pulling out your hair. There is the guilty pleasure of one soap opera but that show can take a week to say an entire sentence much less a story. And there only a few people and they are all exes. Yes, everyone sleeps with everyone and it seems often. Kinda sicko. The latest Bachelor should be sent to Survivor and burned at the stake.

However there is one thing that just keeps on giving, FaceBook. There are groups. One group of women are obsessively buying not cheap shoes that do not fit and make their feet smell. They talk about this for hours. They order 600 dollars worth of these shoes at a time and then post pictures asking how these crap fitting shoes look. And not one of them is a leg or foot model. When that gets old you have the people searching for treasure buried 40 years ago from a book with crappy graphics. They are the most fun. You have to read the book and study the picture and figure out where to dig up the cask and the key. And then you post your theory because you cannot figure out how to dig the hole to find the cask and the key. And then everyone tells you you are wrong. This has been going on for 40 years.

There was one FB group about Southern Manners but it got so nasty they had to shut it down.

Well, it's Friday night and Big Daddy is gonna surprise me with dinner. IF there is food at the store, he can make it home through the lines of tanks keeping us safe (joking) and we still have gas and electric. Cos if no one works we have no goods and services. Anybody think about this shit.

My take on the Prince Harry and Meghan mess

Christmas tree at the hotel this past December.

Yes we spend Christmas in a hotel so we can see our family. That is because no one else can, or will travel. Yes we are the crappy parents.

So, in my world children who announce they are going out in the world to gain employment and make money are applauded. We even give them parties to encourage this shit. If they also want to do good works and support charity, well damn sometimes we even put their picture in the media.

We also do not make them quit their jobs, such as the army, especially when that is all we allowed to be trained for, just because they are special snowflakes.

So this guy did everything he was told to do for all his life and then he has to explain to his wife that no he cannot make any money on his own. His money is an allowance from dad and then from his brother. He will have to ask his brother, the one that treats the both of them like shit, for an allowance and a place to live. And yea his dad might leave him some money but it will be tied up in the trust he can't readily get funds from. Cos when Granny dies he does not get that house, he is just allowed to live there for now. Now maybe when they pay off the renovations he may get a long term lease, that he will have to pay for.

And people are questioning why he would want to leave?

How much can they actually cancel

Christmas tree here at the house. I like it.

Well here are the latest cancellations I know about: The Sebring 12hour race, The Masters, All k-12 school in the state of Michigan, my husband's work travel in NA.

Now I have a few things to say. The Masters cancellation is bullshit. They had already cancelled the gallery and those are just a few rich people, not that many folks hang out in Augusta. It is very elite. And the golfers don't really touch each or get close. So really?

Just before Gov Whitmer came on the radio about cancelling the schools doctors were on the air saying the youngest were the safest and least likely to be in trouble. And don't forget we feed these kids one or two meals a day because no one else can or will. So now the hungry kids are at home with whom I might ask.

Which brings me to my next thought. The UAW I knew would not be happy about this. See, if they get sent home or shut down they get paid, it is in the contract. Not full pay but paid. So why should they be going to work when their kids are stuck at home and no one wants the old folks taking care of the kids, you see the kids can be carriers and exposers even if they don't get sick.

And who is gonna get together and pack that food and those lunchs and the snacks and backpacks to take food home? Not the old folks who should not be gathering together in this risky behavior. WTF. You know the old folks are gonna stand up and take care of this and get sick. Your government at work here in Michigan.

Oh by the way, the doctor that stole Granmma's money called to see if she was okay. I told mom she is just trying to find out if she needs to keep paying that 25 dollars a month.

My mom is scared of Covid-19

Upstairs refrigerator, works most of the time.

One day I will have to tell you about the renovation from hell in detail. I am not ready to relive that nightmare yet.

My mom is not sleeping well because of the virus. She worries. She is 86 so she has reason to worry when they say the old folks are the most vulnerable.

Today is the ladies lunch club monthly lunch. The ladies are mostly old. This lunch is at ChiCanes my favorite restaurant in her town. And it is at the nice hotel where all the golfers stay. This week all the race fans will be staying there.

And mom is afraid to go. And so is her friend. And I have to agree with her given the facts. Lots of transient people from all over in the hotel, bar, and restaurant. Last year when we had her health debacle--cancer and the bumps--I learned about the Florida medical community. And it was not pretty.

You do not want to get sick in Florida. There are no doctors and the very few they have cannot get jobs anywhere else. The PA's run the health system. Specialist are few and nowhere near where she lives. And how will I get her home if she is sick, her oncologist does not want her to fl;y healthy and no one wants a sick person on the plane. What a damn mess.

So I told her to stay home. And if everyone's hope that warm weather may have a positive effect on this thing she is in the best place, sunny Florida.

Oh No, My state is now on the Covid-19 list.

New hair.

I have decided I am tired of coloring my hair to pretend I am not gray. I have had gray hair since my twenties and I have spent many hours and much money to cover that up. Haha. No more, I am going natural. Unless it looks horrible and makes me cry, then I will color it again.

My state is now involved in the Covid madness, yes we have 2 and maybe 3 cases in this huge state and a major university has gone to no face to face teaching. Yea, that is gonna work.

My mom is now worried as all get out as the paper sent her a bill and she does not recall when she paid it the last time. She pays for 13 weeks and she got there just before Thanksgiving. Yea mom, I think you owe them some money. This is also the big race weekend coming up, Sebring 12 hour. Wonder what is gonna come from this as her county is good but people come from all over for this race. I should tell her to stock up on a few groceries but she hates to be told what to do and I do not have the strength to take responsibility for the entire world right now.

Yea, I am the only one taking care of mom, taking care of hubs, taking care of the homefront and for goodness sakes--taking care of the cat. And now my mom wants me to take care of my millionaire brother who hides from all us because he thinks we are after his money This guy is so cheap he complains years later for picking up a lunch tab for his nieces. No I do not have time right now to take on a new project. And as my son let me know I am no good at being a family member. WTF.

Crazy Ass Shit

Granddaughter loves to swim.

So after yesterday's rant I thought I should get back here and if nothing else vent.

So whats new?

 Well moving backward, my uncle died-massive heart attack-he fell in the pool-was on a ventilator and then he died He had a stroke a few weeks ago so this has been a huge cluster. I called all his kids as they don't get along with the second wife, the one he had the affair with on their mom. Who knew they would feel this way.

My mom had a nail in her tire. She is in Florida 1000 miles away. It took hours on the phone to get this replaced and fixed. 4 calls to her to get the specs on the car and tire. This is the car she has no title to because my brother fucked her over. Then she went in and it was not a nail, it was a nothing. At least they did not charge her, yea Tire King.

Her best friend is moving away because she is old, her other friend has a hole in his bladder, and all the other ones died. Except the ones who moved away and all their kids are dying. It seems everyone has cancer.

My best friend died, she also had cancer. First breast cancer, then it went to her bones and then her brain. It was not fun.

My mom had breast cancer and leukemia. Then she had a mastectomy and when on a pill to get rid of the estrogen and her bumps went away. Oh yea, she had this skin rash/bump situation from hell. These bumps were the size of walnuts and really awful. She had every test out there and they were painful and negative but the biophys all said leukemia. The bumps started going away. Now she has no bumps. Her oncologist says Bethesda should see this shit, Bethesda says she has leukemia. What she had was rare and I cannot tell you name and we think it is gone. Scary stuff.

And the renovation is still the stuff from hell, the devil just keeps on giving. Couple months ago we found ceiling leaking downstairs from the tub upstairs. Yep, don't even need to talk about the little shit.

Oh yes, the virus. Covid-19. I just want everyone to realize one thing. Most people in China do not wash their hands. They do not have running water. They live in one room apartments with poor or shared toilets/showers or they visit a communal bath/shower. This is the well off people. The factory workers live in dormitories and share facilities. These people were never raised to wash their hands or anything else on a regular basis. Only rich people and expats have running water as a rule.  And I do not want to offend anyone but when I have been to Europe, they have running water. They do not seem to have soap and do not seem prone to use it on a regular basis. See Italy. The only people I know that routinely wash, scrub, shower and obsess about clean, clean, clean is in the US and Canada. Do not fret, just wash your damn hands.