Under no circumstances do I want people standing around looking at my dead body and discussing how I look. Do I look pretty good? Better than last week? Let us just assume I am going to look dead and commence with the cremation in a timely fashion.
Do not put my age on the funeral card. Nor my birth date as that is no longer relevant. There will be no more parties.
Put my obituary in the newspaper or the on-line news forum for where I am living and might know people. Do not use the funeral home website as an alternate way of dealing with this issue. And do not ask people to add photos to my death site.
Just take care of business and have a party, or at least a congenial gathering. I would rather have people happy than sad.